Friday, May 7, 2010

Peep Show Prevention

I hate nursing in public (HATE IT) and I’m bad at it.  Case in point……on my flight to Seattle a few weeks ago I was trying to secretly nurse my new  baby before we all boarded the flight.  So I picked a semi-uncrowded spot…and then of course right when I start trying to nurse, a couple of suit wearing men came and sat across from me.  Right across from me.  So I tried to act like I wasn’t nursing (not possible) until….the blanket came down.    ALL the way down.  So there I am with my goods hanging out and those poor men trying to look away.  And to make it even better I had one of those stupid nipple shields on……………….awesome.  So my face turned bright red, baby was screaming at me,  my 3 year old was about to pee his pants, and my husband looked at the two men and just shrugged. 

So after that fun experience, I finally decided to spare the suit wearing men of the world a peep show and make myself a nursing cover.  Lucky for me Amy made this great tutorial right before I made it….I think it was a sign from the heavens. (thanks Amy!)

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This fabric is Dogwood Bloom in Pink  by Joel Dewberry.   You can find it here or here.

48 comments:

Myrnie said...

Oh NO!! I'm sorry about the peep show :( I had to nurse in a restaurant once, in the booth. The waiter took our order, I had a baby in my arms. Waiter came back with the food and I don't have a baby, but I'm covered with a florescent pink blanket. Poor guy asked "Where'd the baby go??" Boy did he turn red when I said where she was! :)

The nursing cover turned out super cute.

traceyjay said...

These are a life-saver! My son hasn't tolerated his cover for a few months now, but when he was tiny it was so handy! :)

Laurie Anne said...

It's really too bad that one of the worlds most natural things to do is still viewed as uncomfortable and embarrassing.
I for one never cared...I was feeding my babies...I figured if someone was uncomfortable then they should look away.
That said ~ I did try to be somewhat discreet.

And I'm willing to bet that those 'Suits' wouldn't have looked red in the face if you weren't feeding and just wearing a really low cut revealing blouse with nipples showing through the thin fabric....

Just my two cents :)
Happy Mothers Day! xo

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Cheryl Arkison said...

Is it mean that I had to giggle at your story?

My first HATED to be covered when she nursed, so being out and about was a challenge. I eventually covered from the bottom up so at least my tummy and boob weren't on display, but her head was still free.

At home, totally different story. I think mot of my family and friends have seen my boobs. My house, my perogative. We always warned people at least.

Summer said...

It's darling! Great job! There is no shame in trying to be modest!

Leslie said...

i think one of these is going to be my most needed mommy accessory once my new little one is born...these did not exist when i had my other two. the fabric you chose is gorgeous.

Goddess in Progress said...

One of the reasons I really struggled in my (brief) attempts at breastfeeding was discomfort over nursing in public. Ugh! Should have had one of these a few years ago, and if I have another, it's on my list for one of the first things I'll be making.

Miss Prickly said...

I can relate! Once when I tried to discreetly nurse my son in a restaurant, my mom said, "Dear, you might want to go somewhere private. It can offend the older people." I was so mad - I said, "It's their problem if they're offended, I'm not doing anything wrong." For the life me, I can't understand why breastfeeding even needs to be an issue for anyone but the mother and her child.

Keriann said...

I would have been mortified!! Oh heavens! And the husband just shrugs like it's a bunch of guys in the locker room?! UGH!! You poor thing!

Emily {Creative Chicks} said...

Oh man, nursing in public...don't get me started.

I don't need a nursing cover anymore, but man that fabric is GORGEOUS!

Kimberly said...

Yeah... I had to nurse on a flight once... good memories...

Your nursing cover is beautiful! Great job and probably one of the best things you'll ever make for yourself.

Happpy Mother's Day!

Amy said...

oh goodness. I wish I had had one of those when we went to WIlliamsburg with the baby.....

wishes, true and kind said...

LOL -- and I thought I was the only one (although is has been many years). I had a tough time when my daughter was born and had really low milk. I was very unsure of myself anyway, as she was my first, and everyone else seemed to do it so naturally and effortlessly. When I tried to nurse her when we were out, I felt so awkward and self conscious, then she would start thrashing around under the blanket because there wasn't enough milk. I felt like an idiot ;)

izzy inspired said...

oh the joys of motherhood!! if it makes you feel any better...every mom I know has a horrible nursing in public story. by my third, i was such a pro that i didn't even need the blanket anymore, but back then i lived outside of san francisco (aka liberal capitol of the world) and people looked at you funny if you weren't nursing. with my daughter it was different, now we live in so-cal (aka superficial capitol of the world) so nursing in public just wasn't kosher..so I used one of the covers like yours, only i found mine in a cute baby store....long story just to tell you that I loved it!! yours is beautiful.

Amanda said...

I too hate nursing in public. The covers don't work for me, and when my kids both struggled with nursing in the first place... I was like show me an empty room. The worst ever was when my brother came home from an LDS Mission and we were waiting in the airport for the plane to land. There were people everywhere and nowhere for me to hide. I found a bench behind a pillar, put on the useless cover, and tried to feed my fussie baby. Next thing I know this lady sits down and starts talking to me about how her son just got put in jail, and how her grandson is going there too, and here let me help you your boob is poking out. Then a lady had a stroke in front of me and everyone was crowding around to help and watch. I just decided that a fussy baby was better than giving the entire airport entrance an oogle of my leaking body. Good luck!

everydaychaos said...

Your cover is beautiful. I love nursing. I've nursed each of my 4 children, everywhere and in front of probably thousands of people. Some have been kind and a few have been harsh. But you do what's comfortable for you. You shouldn't feel ashamed about nursing in front of those men; they could have moved if it really bothered them. That said, if you feel like using a cover, use it. Think about, every once in awhile, though, if there's kids present, showing a little more of what you're doing. They're not embarrassed by it like adults are, and if we make children aware and comfortable with it, the next generation might be so much more accepting and encouraging of breastfeeding. :)

momto2wasd said...

Pretty cover! I used nipple shields with my 3 sons for many weeks, and it made nursing in public so much harder! Fortunately, Seattle is a very friendly place for nursing in public compared to many places around the country.

Andee said...

Glad you will be more comfortable nursing in public, but just remember that is why women have breasts!

sparklepetal said...

I'm glad you've made something that will make you feel more comfortable about nursing when you're out and about. I've never felt the need for one, but I think *anything* that helps women who want to breastfeed their babies is a good thing. So many women who want to do it don't get the help they need to get started or to keep going, so its great to share stories and ideas that help other women feel they can breastfeed and still be "normal"!

Care said...

Ah, the old breastfeeding can of worms.... :o)

Your nursing cover is GORGEOUS. I am in love with that fabric!! On my way to check out that tutorial!

Mary Carole said...

Ahhh...I so understand ya. I've spent 4 1/2 years of my life breastfeeding and I can not tell you how many peep shows I have given! So embarrassing! And of course, I had never seen one of these awesome covers until I had just stopped BF my youngest. Go figure! :-) Anywho, I love the Joel Dewberry fabric you chose...it looks fantastic!

~ MC

Jo said...

I agree with those that say it's tragic that women feel bad about nursing in public, but also ANYTHING that improves breastfeeding rates is a good thing, so a huge well done on fighting through the hideous embarrassment and doing it anyway (for what it's worth, after a few months my son was so quick and discreet that people literally didn't realise he was nursing)

Chris said...

Nursing covers weren't really around for my first three...so glad I found it for number 4! I brought my babies to work with me, and had to get creative with making nursing t-shirts for under a cardigan or something else somewhat discreet. I'm so glad someone thought of these!

Christina said...

Beautiful! I'm glad it makes you feel more comfortable about nursing in public. I agree it is hard to do! I am happy for your baby that you do it anyway. I don't care what those guys in suits think. Their opinions on this are worth way less than you and your baby's. And their suits don't make them special. Hopefully you taught them some awareness and insight as to why a mama and baby might tuck themselves into a quiet corner at the airport to begin with! Happy mothers day and happy nursing!

amy smart said...

Hah ha! Don't you love those days? :) I'm so glad the tutorial was helpful for you. I felt very prompted to hurry and do it - it must have been for you. :) I totally wish I'd had one of these during the 4 1/2 years of my life that I spent nursing.

Thanks for the sharing the link.

a little bit biased said...

Love the fabric!

Ariel said...

awwwwwwesome. I'm right there with ya. And the nipple shield...I had to use one for the first 3 months with T...I'm guessing this is one of those experiences that makes your face red even days after it happens. I love the nursing cover! Thank you for the link. :)

Trillium said...

I am laughing so hard right now - NOT because of the peep show, but just because I have been there, done that!. Poor you! Not fun. Good idea on the cover.

Fullgrownwoman said...

Being that I have nursed "full frontal" in front of a traffic court judge while receiving my "sentence", I've never been one to cover, =) but I think your cover is super cute and hope that it really helps you to feel way more comfortable with nursing.

V and Co. said...

lol!!!!!!!

Alysa said...

A nursing cover is definitely a necessity! I could never keep a blanket from falling down. I love the fabric you chose!

Joyful Saint said...

Gotta love the comments....funny how it can be such a controversial issue. LOVE THE FABRIC!!!

A. said...

Bwa ha ha ha!! That is an awesome story. I have finally learned that I am more of a modest/discreet nurser without the cover rather than with it, which is so weird and backwards, but oh well. Cute cover!

Kristi said...

I've nursed all three of mine- a VERY large hat on the baby can cover a multitude of sins. My favorite way to cover up was to use my pashmina- I would wrap it round, pick up baby girl and snuggle her in underneath. My husband and I were at a party one night and I was talking to an ultra conservative gentleman while nursing my first. He didn't even know she was under there until her little hand came straight up and started hitting my neck. Don't think I've ever seen anyone turn so red!

S. Anderson said...

Awesome job! Good for you to nurse that baby. I am going through the same thing right now, and I know how nerve wracking it can be to try to remain discreet but still feed your baby your way! I have a nursing cover, and it has been a lifesaver!

Smith Family said...

Thanks for sharing your funny (well probably not at the time) story. I'm nursing my fourth baby and finally got a cover like the beautiful one you made, it gives me so much for confidence knowing it won't fall off. But I agree with the comment, "that's what they're made for" =)

BJ said...

Love the fabric!! Great choice.

Christina said...

It is a must for nursing (or pumping in public) moms! I loved mine and used it ALL the time. With this, I didn't mind nursing in public. Sure, it was odd at first, but I got over it. It kept me so well covered.

Baye said...

The important thing is that you've found something that will make it possible for you to nurse where ever you need to. The subject of covering will always be a bit controversial. Everyone has their own comfort level when it comes to modesty--and that should be perfectly okay.

I wouldn't care if someone took off their shirt! But, in our society, too much exposure has a circus effect. I'd hate to lose the special bonding moments between mother and child by sharing it with total strangers or anyone who is not comfortable with "the viewing."

Kristin said...

I never was able to get either of my kids to tolerate the cover...it ended up being a peekaboo game that I felt drew far more attention to the fact that I was nursing than just nursing the kid.

I also found that I was far more comfortable nursing my second child in public than my first.

Phyllis said...

I hate nursing in public too - especially when the mom is so blatent about it.

I made one of these covers for my daughter who had her baby a year ago. You'll get a lot of use from it!

Lorraine said...

You will always be so glad that you fed your baby with or without the cover !!
My technique was a loose top I could lift & pop baby underneath.
Baby covered exposed tummy & top draped over baby & boob
A content baby is much more fun to be around than a hungry one .
I think the men in suits would agree.

Jodie said...

I have two nursing covers and, between both of my kids, now I have over two years of nursing experience. With my first, I never could get the hang of it and avoided nursing in public at all costs. With my second, I have somehow managed to gracefully get things under control.

One trick I have learned with the nursing cover - I wrap one of the lower corners under the baby's head (in between his head and my arm) and the other lower corner under his butt. Then, even when he flaps his arms around, the cover still stays put. So far, I don't think I've flashed anyone!

Merry Made Quilts said...

Oh dear! We've all been there in that akward moment!! I just wish I would have had that awesome cover! I had to buy one and let me tell you, the store bought one wasn't nearly that nice (or long) and barely covered anything anyway!!

Alexis said...

aww! i'm so sorry that happened. I hate nursing in public too...I just always use a flannel receiving blanket. My Ben was born in November, so on top of being engorged, embarrassed, and uncomfortable, I was freezing.
Now whenever I have to nurse him in public, i give myself a pep talk, something along the lines of "You are feeding a helpless,hungry baby. If the general public thinks that's weird, gross and awkward, screw them!" Of course, the last time I did that, we were in a crowded restaurant and my screaming kiddo decided to flail about and pull the blanket off right as my husband's old boss walked up to say hi.
Thanks for the pattern!

Lisa said...

I can completely relate. the first time I took my first on a plane, at about 3 months, I dropped his nipple shield in the aisle! I was mortified by that more than anything.

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